I once had a neighbor like that. It turned out I need a huge bowl of weed shirt that was extremely abusive and she wasn’t allowed to be friendly. We didn’t know until he beat up the oldest buy so badly he spent two weeks in the hospital. That finally gave her the courage to divorce him. After he was gone, she gradually got over her fear. I have a neighbor like this, except we are in townhouses and our doors are literally like 3 feet apart. We share a porch. She’s 6 years older than me, but we are both single moms with kids. She’s always yelling at her kids and people outside and just seems really rude. We don’t talk and I stay inside if she’s out to avoid her.
We have lived here for almost I need a huge bowl of weed shirt and it sucks. We’ve had neighbors next door for two years. Previous to that, the house was vacant for about 5. It had a fire. I’ve tried talking to them when I’ve seen them and just get the cold shoulder. Oh well. I don’t let it bother me. The house and yard look worse than when it was vacant. Could be she’s been so hurt by people that she’s scared of everyone or anyone holding out a hand of friendship – like it’s a sick joke. I’m an introvert and don’t really engage with neighbors in quick passing. Sometimes a smile or a wave. My home to me is sacred and a place to recharge.