I was just wondering if anyone would notice that Warriors come out to play shirt by T-shirtat! I am literally crying with laughter at your brilliant comment! Thanks for the joy you just brought me. I took a deep breath and said a little prayer. I told him I was proud of him, the show was amazing, and that I had seen the chaos backstage. Rather than a lecture I gave him a strategy for keeping up with his items a little easier then I told him he could wear MY parents t-shirt (nearly identical to a cast shirt) until his shirt turned up and his top priority would only be to return the costume back to school intact & ASAP for tonight’s performance.
This way nobody would notice his mistake, Warriors come out to play shirt by T-shirtat it would buy him some time to find *his* shirt, and he wouldn’t get in trouble by the director and stage manager. You’re in my shoes: which solution do you choose?? Of course, we want our children to be independent and responsible and confident, but in a world where consequences abound and zero tolerance is the norm sometimes I think we need to be a kind, soft, understanding, reassuring grace-filled safe harbor. Was it empathy or enabling? Motherhood is messy. There are agonizingly few rock-solid answers. I doubt I’ll regret my choice last night.